Change in Attitude!

My close relative is heavily pregnant with her second child, her first born is a three year old little girl. Her husband is into Leather business and casually mentions that he would prefer the second child to be a BOY baby , rather than “just another ” girl child. Why ? He wants his Boy, to take over his business in the future.

Point 1. Can’t a girl run her father’s business ? If no, why Not ?

Point 2. If the educated indian mentalities in 2016 , still wish for the second chance of pregnancy to bear them a boy child (if they lost the first chance to a GIRL, as I may put it !) , Imagine the illiterate and the lower strata of the society. When is this ever going to change ?

When we moved to the UK, we had our neighbour an Indian Doctor Gynaecologist working in the UK, during one of his dinner visits home and in a casual discussion – he mentioned about those couples who did not determine the baby’s gender before birth. As far as what he has noticed, He has witnessed an expression of disappointment on the faces of family members of couples of Indian and Pakistani origin, when they get to know that the new born is a baby girl. The British or other nationalities have never been known not to have welcomed a baby girl any differently to that of a baby boy.

Point 1 . Why  ? Point 2. Why are parents with “just” girl children not happy ? Point 3 . When and How is this going to change.

I was expecting this below video on any of the blog pages by my Blog Friends or the blogs I closely follow , was specially looking for it on The Life and Times of an Indian Homemaker‘s Blog page. IHM, if you are reading this, Please feel free to post the this on your blog page.

The Point that I liked in this video is when the father of the bride to be,  mentions that his daughter can’t just live on noodles – when the grooms mom boasts about the fact that all that her son can cook is microwaveable noodles !

The Groom guy still determined to marry the Girl request for 10 days time to learn cooking before the girls family goes over to his home to ” judge” him on household chores and cooking skills.

The video portrays a change in attitude and most importantly the acceptance of this change by the grooms side. These changes are the much needed welcome changes that need to be embraced by the Indian society.

Thanks BIBA ! Love your add on changing convention !

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6 Responses to Change in Attitude!

  1. freakyveggie says:

    Loved the ad 🙂
    On another note, I think it’s going to be quite a while before the mindset of Indians changes about the gender. But am happy that at least the change has started, although just a little.

    • sjscribbles says:

      True FV, in my opinion the grooms parents and their possessiveness is going to increase with having just one or two kids , as compared to previous generations who had many more kids ! Seems like the Indian mindset has a long way to go !

  2. Bikramjit says:

    The problem is that this is somehow in our genes now. . Everyone wants a male child. .

    I am not sure if there is a change because I don’t see it .. yes people say one thing but when it actually happens it’s a different story.

    But let’s hope things change…

    • sjscribbles says:

      You are right, Bikramji ! Everything is fine in theory – “Naari Devatha hai “, but when it comes to birth of a girl child or daughter in laws – Every thing changes !!! Double standards !!!

  3. I liked the add. Particularly the support of the father. I wish all fathers thought like this.

    • sjscribbles says:

      Thanks for dropping by Sanchita, Yes, loved the way the Dad supported his daughter. Wish our country embraces Change soon and give the Girls and their parents the much deserved respect.

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